(Source: mkultradiscipline)
Fact vs Myth
Men need more cuddles and kisses than women, and if that weren’t surprising enough to researchers in an international study on long-term relationships, sexual satisfaction is more important to women in long-term relationships.
-via Kinsey Institute at Indiana University
Most studies on sex pay more attention to people who have not been in long term, committed relationships. This skews the data quite a bit. Relationships are fulfilling, and garner a far higher level of intimacy than just plain sex could ever allow.
Guys get the short end of the stick a lot when it comes to sex education. Not because women are getting overwhelmingly great treatment (look at the news in the US lately), but because a lot of the things we assume about guys is archaic.
Boys love snugs. It might sound a bit condescending, but most guys I’ve been intimate with have touch and affection as their primary love language, kinda like a puppy. Don’t get me wrong, I adore affection. Quality time and affection are my two biggest love languages (find out yours here), but nothing gives me the warm fuzzies more and more often than when a guy snuggles up with me and puts his head on my chest. Or better yet when he positions himself to have me play with his hair or gently stroke his face. One guy I was with in particular loved to have his forehead kissed during sex. It was darling.
These small acts of touch, kisses and cuddling can often be overlooked when it comes to guys the same way sex can be overlooked for women. My sex drive, once unleashed, can be of epic proportions. It ties not only into my sex drive, but into my connectivity and insecurity. Oh yeah, insecurity is like the common cold, we don’t yet have a foolproof cure. If I am sexually involved with you, and we go to bed without having sex, or waking up in the middle night to have sex, or having sex on the morning (best is all three), I find it a little hard not to get furious. Sex matters. A lot.
Now, this may have been a study on relationships between 1-25+ years, but it can be applicable in most relationships over a few months.Men and women need a little more than either of them are given credit for and without that it can change you. It can lead to unfullfilling relationships devoid of sex or devoid of attachment. The best solution is to always try and be more self aware. Know your own motivations for relationships and never assume what someone you’re involved with really wants. Discussion is always best the best solution.
I believe it. I’m always complaining to my boyfriend about how I’m sexually unfulfilled and he’s always asking me to hold him.
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